Sunday, July 22, 2012

22 years...

So this Saturday marked my 22nd wedding anniversary.  As far as celebrations go we didn't really have a chance to do anything.  My daughter had an out of town lacrosse tournament so I was with her Friday and we got home Saturday at 6:00 pm.  My husband spent his Saturday helping my nephew get his car towed after he had a minor accident, he arrived home just after I did.

We headed to a friends house for a party as three of our friends that live out of the country are here for a short visit.  Then we ran by my brother's house to have a few drinks and see some other friends that were in from out of town.

We are planning a little early dinner tomorrow  to make up for the lack of wedding anniversary celebration, and there is a good chance there will be sex during the day as the kids are headed to an amusement park tomorrow.

There was an interesting conversation at the first party we went to on Saturday.  My husband works in a school and most of the people he works with are in their late 20's and early 30's.  They are newly married and just having kids. There were two couples there with very young children.  The husbands were talking about the fact that they don't get any sex.  One even made a comment that his wife won't have sex with him while she is breastfeeding.  The other talked about no sex once his wife is pregnant.

When we got home my husband asked me if I thought they were kidding.  He just can't even imagine being in a marriage where there isn't sex.  I told him that our marriage was not the norm and that a lot of folks are in marriages that don't involve a sex life that is satisfying to both partners.  Of our friends there are at least 3 or 4 that are having no sex.  Then there are at least 3 or 4 that are enjoying very satisfying sex lives.  Might be a cool social experiment to see if an outsider could observe all the couples and then try to determine who is getting it and who isn't.

As for my very satisfied husband the next two weeks are going to be very hard on him.  I leave for the beach on Thursday for a week and he leaves for Colorado the next Tuesday for a week.  The dry spell is going to make for a very nice reunion when he gets home but I think it has been since the birth of our youngest 8 years ago since he has gone that long without sex.


1 comment:

  1. Congratulations! 22 years is a wonderful accomplishment.

    My wife and I were looking at some pictures the other day and one was from her friend's daughter's birthday party. I commented on how I liked that couple and it was too bad they were moving away.

    My wife's comment was that she thought they were a great couple, but it was too bad they don't have sex since it will hurt their marriage. (we are the same age and life situation as your husband's colleagues).

    It is too bad, I think young people don't make it enough of a priority. In my wife's friend's case, sex has been painful after the birth of her child. But she hasn't done anything about it.

    It was painful for my wife too, but she went to physio, we did other things, and kept it slow. It took awhile, but she is back to normal now.