Friday, July 27, 2012

A nice get away

So on Thursday morning I packed up my boys and went to the beach with my friends.  Right now we have 4 mom's and 15 kids.  Kids range from 1 to 19 and we are having a blast.

It is so nice to get this chance to hang out with my girlfriends and to watch our kids bond and create memories.

To cap it off we are in a beautiful 10 bedroom beachfront house - for FREE!!!

I have a wonderful husband that doesn't mind giving me up for a week, we will actually end up being apart for 12 days because he is taking a trip with our little guys out to visit his family in Colorado.  I recognize how nice it is that he is making a sacrifice holding things down at home and surviving with out sex for close to two weeks.  He recognizes how much I enjoy the beach and hanging out with my friends.

I am a very lucky lady!  And thanks to this wonderful vacation I am very relaxed as well!


Sunday, July 22, 2012

22 years...

So this Saturday marked my 22nd wedding anniversary.  As far as celebrations go we didn't really have a chance to do anything.  My daughter had an out of town lacrosse tournament so I was with her Friday and we got home Saturday at 6:00 pm.  My husband spent his Saturday helping my nephew get his car towed after he had a minor accident, he arrived home just after I did.

We headed to a friends house for a party as three of our friends that live out of the country are here for a short visit.  Then we ran by my brother's house to have a few drinks and see some other friends that were in from out of town.

We are planning a little early dinner tomorrow  to make up for the lack of wedding anniversary celebration, and there is a good chance there will be sex during the day as the kids are headed to an amusement park tomorrow.

There was an interesting conversation at the first party we went to on Saturday.  My husband works in a school and most of the people he works with are in their late 20's and early 30's.  They are newly married and just having kids. There were two couples there with very young children.  The husbands were talking about the fact that they don't get any sex.  One even made a comment that his wife won't have sex with him while she is breastfeeding.  The other talked about no sex once his wife is pregnant.

When we got home my husband asked me if I thought they were kidding.  He just can't even imagine being in a marriage where there isn't sex.  I told him that our marriage was not the norm and that a lot of folks are in marriages that don't involve a sex life that is satisfying to both partners.  Of our friends there are at least 3 or 4 that are having no sex.  Then there are at least 3 or 4 that are enjoying very satisfying sex lives.  Might be a cool social experiment to see if an outsider could observe all the couples and then try to determine who is getting it and who isn't.

As for my very satisfied husband the next two weeks are going to be very hard on him.  I leave for the beach on Thursday for a week and he leaves for Colorado the next Tuesday for a week.  The dry spell is going to make for a very nice reunion when he gets home but I think it has been since the birth of our youngest 8 years ago since he has gone that long without sex.


Wednesday, July 18, 2012

My Honey's Honey Harvest

So after just a few month my husband did his first honey harvest.  Those little bees have created 50 pounds of honey so far, and there will be another harvest later in the summer.

In other news - we have been doing great lately.  Yesterday I came very close to breaking my resolution.  It was 8:30 am and I was already up and working on a presentation for work.  I got cold so I walked back into the bedroom to get some socks and my husband rolled over with his morning wood and asked for some action.  At first I did say "I can't, I have to get the slides done for my meeting", he rolled over to go back to sleep.  I think he was pleasantly surprised when I almost immediately relented, with no further pressure from him, and told him I had time for a quick one.


Saturday, July 14, 2012

Drunk Sex and a Wardrobe Malfunction

So others have posted and I thought I would share my adventure from yesterday and this morning.  We had happy hour by the pool with my brother and sister-in-law, which usually turns into dinner by the pool and next thing we know it is midnight and we are finally headed home.  Last night I had some margaritas and a few glasses of wine.  This was over a 6 hour period and there was food so while I was sporting a good buzz I didn't think I was really that drunk.  I was feeling good.

So we got home (my husband drove) got the kids tucked away - drank some water and had some good drunk sex.  I remember all the activities.  I remember laying down after to go to sleep - and I remember waking up in the middle of the night and wondering when I got dressed.  I didn't remember putting on what felt like a pair of my husband's boxer shorts.  I was half asleep so I didn't think much of it.

I woke up in the morning once again wondering about what I was wearing.  My husband got out of bed to let the dogs outside and I got up to use the bathroom.  I found that I was not wearing my husband's boxers - I was wearing his t-shirt.  I was wearing his t-shirt as pants.  I had one leg in the arm hole and one leg in the neck hole.  I must conclude from this that I was very drunk - and not just a little tipsy.  I have absolutely no memory of getting dressed - and normally I don't dress after sex - so it is really odd to me that at some point during the night I decided to get dressed in such a bizarre manner.  I did have a dream where I was on a football team and we were getting dressed for a game maybe I was acting it out in my sleep.  The shirt I was 'wearing' was his football camp shirt.

Anyway - I quickly got out of his t-shirt and am pleased to report there was no hangover.  My husband came back to bed and we were able to get in some good morning sex and a shower before the kids woke up.


Friday, July 13, 2012

Sex on the Brain

I like to look at how people come across my blog and noticed that my blog got a shout out on MMSL today that triggered some traffic.  Those that blog know the MMSL has lots of readers and always triggers a spike in hits.  

Anyway the comment was about how I had discovered never saying no actually led to a direct spike in my drive.  That was back in February (see  Aha Moment).  It got me thinking about how great that was - the anticipation and how much fun I was having.  That made me sad as I didn't feel that high anymore.

So I analyzed and here is my conclusion.  I have grown used to thinking about sex all the time.  I plan my day  to make sure I am available for sex.  I plan my nights and my mornings around the possibility for sex.  I look for any and all opportunities (these are hard to come by in a house filled with kids) for sex!

So I am pleased to report that I still have Sex on the Brain.  I am still happy about that.  I am a little disappointed that I have grown used to this feeling.  I am also amused by the amount of time I spend thinking about sex.

Here is something else - I am thinking about sex all the time as much for my husband as for me.  I want him to feel like the luckiest guy in the world, despite the fact that his wife gives the worlds worst BJ.


Tuesday, July 10, 2012


One day back and I was up working until midnight.  I suck!

So I watched my husband sleep and I fell asleep at my computer, by the time I crawled into bed I was too tired to wake him up.  That really stinks - for both of us.  Earlier in the day we both happened to be on facebook in different parts of the house and he sent me this message "I'm going to fuck you good tonight" - then I screw it up by working.

In my defense, I had to get something done for a 3rd party vendor and there is really not much I can do about that.

I am definitely going to be ready, willing and able tonight.  I am going to close up shop early and have a drink and make my husband live up to the promise he made yesterday.

Monday, July 9, 2012

50 Shades - where I am comfortable reading

So as I mentioned earlier my beach reading this year was the 50 Shades of Grey series.  I finished the first two and got well into the third.  I had no issues reading these books on the beach, I didn't try to hide them from anyone - and I noticed that they appeared to be the most popular books on the beach!  I did have one moment where my 4 year old niece walked up to me while I was reading, I was on one of the rather steamy pages (which if you have read the books you know that about 33% of the books' pages are steamy).  Anyway I shielded her from the book - all the while thinking I was being silly as she can't read.  These books just make me feel like the sex and dirty thoughts can jump off the page and get you (or your 4 year old niece).

We packed up early (4 am) on Saturday to head up the coast to New Jersey for a lacrosse tournament for my daughter.  This is when I noticed that I was embarrassed to be reading these books.  I didn't want any of the other team parents seeing the books.  I don't think I would have had any problem joining in a discussion with these parents about the books - but I didn't want to be seen actually reading them.

I usually sit farther away from the other spectators anyway, I sit down by the end line so I can video tape my daughter in goal - so I was able to sneak in some reading down there during warm ups.  I was cracking myself up the way I was so careful not to hold the book in a way that exposed the cover for all to see.


Sunday, July 8, 2012

Ugh - vacation is over

We are home and unpacked.  Tomorrow I have to work.  Had such a great week, I am so not ready to go back to work.  The good news is that it should be normal working hours!

I am not going to do any work until tomorrow morning - my work week usually starts on Sunday evening - but this week I am going to extend my vacation until the 'normal' start of the work week.  On top of that i am going to try my best to ease into a normal work schedule and keep my nights for myself.


Monday, July 2, 2012


I am on day 3 of my beach vacation.  We go every summer with my brother and his family and my sister.  This year my sister-in-law invited her sister and her family.  We have a full house of 7 adults, 3 teenagers, and 6 little ones.  The weather has been beautiful and it is so nice to get away.

We spend our days on the beach, our nights playing games and enjoying a few adult beverages - and sex is just expected.  I found out that a few years ago when we each had little ones sharing our rooms there were several of us that had at some point in the week escaped to the laundry room in the rented house for a little quickie.  This year we have plenty of bedrooms and everyone has enough privacy!

I have mentioned before that I LOVE to read - but only allow myself to read when on vacation because if I start a book I ignore everything else and just read.  So I am on vacation and my sister-in-law has provided me with some interesting reading.  Yes - the 50 Shades of Grey books.  I am almost done the first and it is certainly some interesting, thought provoking reading.

For the guys out there - the ones that aren't getting it as regularly as you want - if your wife has read these did you see a spike in her drive?

The books certainly make me want to have sex, even if I think this woman and the situations are a bit out there for me, although I will admit some of it seems like something I would try - the issue is that I am painfully shy about what I want even after being married almost 22 years.  May have to just tell my husband to read the books.