I met my husband when I was 18 and just out of high school. I grew up pretty quickly, helping to take care of my mother when she was sick and then learning to live without her. I started drinking and sneaking out when I was 14 so by the time I was 18 I had done a lot of things most people spend their college years doing.
I was out of the party scene, working full time and in college while we dated long distance. We were a 7 hours apart by car, and this was in the dark ages (late '80s). We saw each other about once a month and wrote letters daily. He didn't even have a phone as he was in the military and the barracks those days had one pay phone. I think that we got to know each other much better this way.
We married when I was 21 and I left home to go live with him. That was in 1990. We have had a really good life - neither one of us is easy to live with but we have made it work. It seemed however that in the past few years we have moved more into the routine and lost a lot of the spark. I think that is mostly my fault. With raising a family, working full time and trying to stay out of debt I wasn't paying as much attention to our relationship. It was there, it was good, but it wasn't great.
Now the relationship isn't all sex - but sex certainly makes the relationship stronger (and more fun). So I came up with this resolution. This resolution is mine because although it impacts both me and my husband I am only directly changing my behavior.
- I want to physically show my husband that I love him.
- I want my husband to be happy, sex makes him very happy!
- I want my husband to feel loved, to feel accepted and more importantly to never feel rejected.
- I want my husband to think he is married to the very best wife in the world. I know I am not - but I want him to feel that way.
- I never want my husband to envy another persons marriage or sex life.
- I want my husband to always feel comfortable in asking me to meet his needs.
- I want to meet every need he has
- I want to fully live up to my marital obligations