tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6188485917927777333.post2243548651436332193..comments2020-01-29T19:32:35.098-08:00Comments on I will never say no in 2012: Still HereMrs. Yeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03607309394484249435noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6188485917927777333.post-11916284256704517612012-08-26T05:31:28.411-07:002012-08-26T05:31:28.411-07:00on another note, buy the eroscillator. you will n...on another note, buy the eroscillator. you will not be disappointed.Chuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04493123424195804149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6188485917927777333.post-5493098166376987552012-08-23T07:25:21.117-07:002012-08-23T07:25:21.117-07:00I hope things settle down for you soon workwise. ...I hope things settle down for you soon workwise. Sounds crazy busy.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6188485917927777333.post-81025823737902205422012-08-22T08:55:00.563-07:002012-08-22T08:55:00.563-07:00He likes toys - so I think it is more of the sitti...He likes toys - so I think it is more of the sitting around with other women actually looking at them that freaked him out a bit. We have never really been into porn outside of late night HBO stuff and some Cinemax, as odd as it seems he tends to turn it even though I would like to watch (another hurdle for me to tell him to keep it on - next time I promise I will). He did know about the party for a full month and that is why his reaction on the day off was so odd. I appreciate your insight and will let you know - that when we do use toys he initiates it - another one of my sit back and let him take control thing that I would like to change but I am dealing with baby steps here. Buying them was one thing - actually using them will be difficult for me to do without his support and encouragement. Thanks for the insight - it is always appreciated.Mrs. Yeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607309394484249435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6188485917927777333.post-66726216992367921982012-08-22T07:53:02.091-07:002012-08-22T07:53:02.091-07:00All right, let me jump in and help out here.
Firs...All right, let me jump in and help out here.<br /><br />First, your husband was probably shocked, if this was your first foray into sex toys. Most men get used to their wives having fairly static ideas and standards about sex, so if you didn't use a vibe at the beginning of the relationship, then doing it suddenly is possibly going to make him go all deer-in-the-headlights. Give him a few days to get used to the idea, then re-visit it again, more calmly.<br /><br />Second, there is likely a part of his mind that is thinking "why is she bringing this up now? Has she become unsatisfied with my performance and needs assistance to orgasm?" Believe it or not, dudes are just as insecure about sexual performance as women are, and some guys will take a sudden enthusiasm for toys to mean "You just aren't cutting it anymore, and I need a Battery Operated Boyfriend" on the side." Reassure him that this is in no way a commentary on his performance, but an adventurous experiment that you would like to share with him. Once he knows it isn't him, he'll relax and be more open to the idea.<br /><br />(Apropos to that, when the package does arrive, make sure that you only use toys about 1/3 of the time, lest he feel that you're dependent upon them or not happy with him. Unless he really likes them, in which case follow his lead)<br /><br />Thirdly, while dudes aren't always enthusiastic about sex toys, they are usually pretty enthused about porn. Did you include any DVDs in your purchases? That might help him feel less anxious about it. <br /><br />Fourthly, there is the possibility that he was secretly enthusiastic, but did not want you to judge him for being overly-enthusiastic or displaying an interest in something that you might not approve of. For example, if he had grabbed the catalog out of your hand, went straight for the anal plug page, and said "Darn! The biggest one they have is 9"!" then you might have looked at him a little funny. <br /><br />Integrating sex toys into your marriage is a delicate thing, this far out. Don't take his cool reaction personally -- next time you have a date night, dig out the catalog afterward, drink a glass of wine, and go through it page by page, just for fun. But don't spring it on him suddenly -- dudes spook easily when it comes to their performance.<br /><br />Hope this helps.Ian Ironwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776355241706284910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6188485917927777333.post-66574396101255693652012-08-22T05:30:37.028-07:002012-08-22T05:30:37.028-07:00Oh, that's such a disappointing reaction he ha...Oh, that's such a disappointing reaction he had, Mrs Yes! But just as you've mentioned your own Catholic guilt in your self-analysis, he probably has the same thing going on... and you sound like you're willing to work through it for the better. He's very lucky to have someone who's so positive about trying new things and willing to work with him. <br /><br />I like the approach you're planning for when the package arrives. Reasonable communication is always a plus. <br /><br />Still rooting for you! :DAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16155143990392955762noreply@blogger.com